Focusing only on what I can control is something I’ve been working on for years and it comes with practice.
Today, I am really good at it, except when I suck at it!
But in all seriousness, it is a day-to-day and moment-to-moment struggle for me as an entrepreneur (and as a human) to only focus on the things I can change.
I recently was doing the acceptance course on the Headspace app (which I highly recommend - the course and the app!) and I heard a working definition of acceptance that really resonated with me.
Acceptance means that once I have done everything I can externally to change something I wish was different that I then turn inward to change my mindset or attitude about that thing. It very much doesn’t mean that I just accept everything that is not acceptable to me or that I’m a doormat. It just means that once I have exhausted all actions, I then adjust my thinking about that situation to deal with it better.
Another possible action may very well present itself five minutes later, at which point I can take action again.
I just love the message of doing everything I can and then taking steps to be okay with reality, whatever that might look like. That is invaluable advice for any of us on the inevitably up and down life trajectory of an entrepreneur.